All three of my boys have had or still have a second mommy.
This second mommy takes over for me when they are napping, long
car rides, or at nighttime. It follows
them to sleepovers, and on vacations. It
makes them feel safe, secure, and loved until I come into their rooms with a
smile, open arms and a smothering of kisses.
These second mommy’s are my children’s lovies.
Big T who is now eight just bravely gave up his lovey this
year. It started out as a thermal baby
blanket that was sky blue in color. It
ended as a white fabric rendition of a massive spider web. I’m not kidding! It had so many holes and rips in it that we
were throwing it away piece by piece.
Finally this summer, Big T took it upon himself to throw away the last
peace. And he cried about it. He was so sad to have to give up his second
mom lovey. But he’s past that now…he’s
growing up.
His little brothers still have theirs.
Sweet Pea has a lovey that is very near and dear to him. He HAS to sleep with him during his naps and at night. He even tucks him in right next to his head. If his nose isn’t right he will yank on it to fix it so that “he can breathe better.” He talks to him like he is a person and never ever goes without giving kisses and hugs to him multiple times a day. For years he pretended to be his lovey's mommy. Just recently he realized that only girls could be mommy’s so he changed to being his lovey’s daddy. Everyone, I’d like to introduce you to Bay Bear:
Bay Bear doesn’t just have a special place in Sweet Pea’s
heart; he also has a special place in mine, because of when and where Bay Bear
came into our lives. All of us first met
Bay Bear in the hospital when Sweet Pea was born. He was a gift to Sweet Pea from his big
brother and the very first gift Sweet Pea ever received. Big T was very proud to be a big brother and
he was VERY excited to give his new baby brother a gift. From that moment on, Bay Bear was always in
Sweet Pea’s bed to provide love, comfort, and safety. Big T made sure of it!
So to say Bay Bear is special is an understatement!
Buggy’s second mommy is one that was given to us by a family
friend before he was born. The two
weren’t introduced until Buggy went into his crib at 3 months of age, but ever
since then it has been a match made in heaven.
His second mommy is currently named Lovey Bunny until he has the words
to name his lovey himself. Without
further ado…here he is:
Half Stuffed Bunny, half blanket and ALL LOVE. Buggy loves to hold his ears, to roll them in
between his fingers. Not his arms or the
blanket part…his ears. Buggy is not at
the point where he has to have him in the car, in the shopping car, or in the
bathtub with him (yet). But he
absolutely cannot rock or sleep without him.
I am extremely thankful for my children’s second mommys. For the warmth, the softness, and the
security they give my children when I’m not there. It is because of them my children are able to
sleep soundly and peacefully. It’s
because of them that I get a break during their naps, and don’t have to run
into the boys’ bedrooms 17 times a night (I don’t know where I got the number
17, just go with it).
But mostly, I’m thankful for the memories they are giving my
children, and for the memories they are giving me.
Does your child have
a lovey?
I’m linking up with my fabulous friend Christine at Quasi Agitato because she is hosting a linky about lovies. Yeah, I know…she rocks!
46 comments:
Those lovies are so cute. Very cool that your son takes care of one like he is bay bears dad. I used to love my stuffed teddy bears when I was a kid.
Aw, I love that Bay Bear was a gift from big brother! Such cute lovies.
So cute! I love those special gifts. My girls like lovies and always have something with them when they sleep, but they never had one they were specifically attached to.
I so love this post. Bay Bear and Epi would be the hottest couple in Loveywood. Which makes me wonder about Sweet Pea and Daughter...hmmm...
And Lovey Bunny has that perfect combo of softness and satin.
I so appreciate these loveys doing the work that we, the moms, can't always do.
Thanks for linking up!
Those are great lovies!
Chessa has about seven lovies- does that count? She ahs different ones for each place she sleeps. Elmo & a puppy in her crib. Minnie and another Elmo at her grandmother's house and a bear at daycare. The good news is I don't have to worry about leaving someone at daycare and having a child freak out come bedtime.
Well, we use to. We miss her like crazy because you truly count on them to be there when your kids need them.
My oldest (11) had a lovey....actually still sleeps with him but doesn't take him everywhere as he used to. Poor bedraggled puppy. My youngest two do not but sometimes I wish they did...might take some of the pressure off mom. ;)
Tim,
Thank you so very much for stopping by and commenting. I'm truly honored! It is so adorable to see Sweet Pea taking care of his Bay Bear. My husband is extremely happy that he switched from wanting to be his mommy, to wanting to be his daddy though.
Alison,
Me too!
Heather,
Thank you. Your girls just liked to spread they love out equally. I love that!
Christine,
I'm so glad you like it! Bay Bear and Epi WOULD be the hottest couple in Loveywood! They would be the IT couple without a doubt. As for Sweet Pea and Daughter, I think we should get them together for a play date. See if nature will take it's course! :)
Thanks for creating such a fun linkup!! LOVE IT!
Krista,
Seven lovies absolutely count. I think its brilliant that she has different lovies for different places. GENIUS!
Minivan Mama,
I'm so very sorry that you guys lost your lovey! Is there a way you could get another one? I know it's not the same, but just a thought.
April,
Aww...that's so sweet! Big T had to give up his lovey because it was ripped to pieces. It was really hard on him. Really hard.
Maybe you could start putting something soft and sweet in your younger two's beds...see if something happens?
It is nice to have lovelies. I think that they give us a little peace of mind that they give our children some comfort.
Some nights my son sleeps with a bed full of stuffed animals. After reading this post, I think tonight I am going to take a picture to remember for when he grows up. ;)
All I can say is be sure to save the lovies when your babies outgrow them...
I know it's hard to imagine.
But it will happen. And then, when they are 13 and surly, you can sneak into your closet and pull down the duffle bag where you hide the lovies (shhhh) and you will be overcome with sweetness and nostalgia.
You can survive the teen years this way.
I promise.
xO
Those are precious! None of my kids have ever had a lovie or a binkie or anything. I am really shocked - I thought out of 3 kids at least one of them would! LOL
Second sweet lovey post I've read this week. My 9 year old still sleeps with her lovey. I am not kidding when I say *I* might need counseling the day she gives it up forever.
To me, it means she's still a kid, you know?
My boys have blankies, and I'm sure my girls will too. Although they are only allowed them when in bed. I love how the lovies mean just as much to us as they do them! It's our link to them as babies!
Donut has one of those bunny/blankie loveys. I'm not quite sure she gets it, but I give it to her every night at bedtime.
So sweet! My kiddo has a couple of monkeys, but he's not very attached to them. He throws them to the dog and laughs. Should I be worried? :)
Ooh! I love this linky. Tomorrow, I have to do it!! Reese has a lovey that has a very special story:) I'll share it with you tomorrow.
Those are so cute! Bay Bear reminds me of a favorite bear I had as a child and still have, Kirby. Though I don't sleep with Kirby anymore. Surprisingly none of my kids really have lovies. I think they're missing out!
Aw, that is just so sweet!
How sweet that they have loveys. I bet it was hard for your oldest to throw his lovey away. My oldest is 8 and she doesn't have a lovey but she has a hard time getting rid of anything.
Okay, reading about him throwing away his lovey actually made me really sad!
Optimistic Mom,
Yes, I think lovies are multi-talented in that they provide comfort and security for our children, and peace of mind for us.
I hope you took a picture!
Julie,
I completely plan on saving the lovies. I was so sad when we had to throw Big T's away, there was just nothing left of it. :(
Annie,
Thank you! WOW! I thought all kids had lovies. I bet YOU are thier lovey! :)
Missy,
Christine has a great linky going doesn't she?
I cried when Big T threw away what was left of his lovey. CRIED! He's just so big now somehow.
Jamie,
Big T only had a blanket, Sweet Pea has a blanket for his Bay Bear, and Buggys Lovey Bunny is part animal part blanket. I think blankets make the BEST lovies.
It's definitely our link to them as babies.
Rach,
If she has it every night, she will get it soon...especially if she DOESN'T have it one night. Those nights are no fun!
mamamash,
Nah no need to worry. The best lovies are played with and used and abused! HA!
Bridget,
OH I can't wait to read it! Going to see if you linked up now!
Grumpy Grateful Mom,
Thank you! I still have all my childhood bears as well. They are up in the attic in a box, but they are still with me.
The Blue Zoo,
Thank you so much! :)
Jessica,
It was really a sad day. We both cried. But it was his choice to do it. And there was nothing left of it but strings. :(
Megan,
It was so hard! But he made the choice all on his own. He's getting so big!
Alex refuses any lovies. He just like his balls.
Sports and otherwise.
Pacis were my son's sleeping time friend. They were so hard to give up.
Your children's lovies are so cute.
KLZ,
That's so like a boy. All balls!!
JDaniel4's Mom,
Oh yes, the Pacis (Binkies). All three of my boys used them (Buggy still does). But it was the hardest for Sweet Pea to give them up!
awww, I love this! My 14 year old still sleeps with his blankey...although it's a big comforter, but he walks around with that thing drapped over his head. It's a blankey.
Aw that's so cute! My 2 year old has a lovie that he is absolutely attached to. My other 2 kids don't really have one.
Sandra,
Awwww LOL!! I hope you plan on telling your sons girlfriend about his blankey! :)
Kimberly,
I LOVE how Sweet Pea interacts with Bay Bear. I have a feeling Buggy is on the same course. LOVE IT!
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