By the time my two older boys were the age Buggy is now (15 months) I was sleeping comfortably, at peace, and…this is the key….through the night.
Buggy is on the same schedule that my other two boys were on when they were babies and has been sleeping through the night for months upon months but yet, I’m still waking up.
I’ve been wracking my brain for the last few months wondering why… oh WHY sweet sleep gods/fairies am I not able to sleep through the night when Buggy is sleeping without issue during the night?
Other than the obvious reason….my husband’s snoring, I simply couldn’t figure it out.
Buggy isn’t waking up in the wee-small-hour-of-the-morning for a feeding, or night terrors, or just general “I want to be with you, where did you go?”
So what the heck is going on?!?!?!?
Then this morning, in the shower while I was trying to wake every ounce of my body with the warm water running over my head it finally came to me!!
When Big T and Sweat Pea were babies, we were in a different house, our first home. It was a rambler so there was no running up and down the stairs to check on the baby during the day. All I had to do was go around the corner. It was small so I could hear just about everything no matter what part of the house I was in. The nursery was right next to our bedroom. I didn’t have to try very hard to hear them. All I had to do was put my ear to the wall and I could hear them breathing (it was an old home).
Once we moved to our current home 4 years ago, which is two stories, Sweet Pea was still considered a baby, and he was still sleeping peacefully in his crib for naps and at nighttime. In fact he was just about the age Buggy is now, 15 months old. I used the monitor for naps during the day when I was downstairs, but didn’t need it at night because he was right across the hall.
When Buggy was born, we decided to put the nursery down in the bedroom at the other end of the hall for a few reasons. Both older boys go to school and we didn’t want to risk them waking up for 11pm, 2am, and 5am feedings when Buggy was an infant and as a result have them be tired at school and not be able to function. On top of that, both boys have been used to having their own space and at this time in their lives they NEEDED space from each other. And the room is simply a perfect size for a nursery! It’s awesome!
So Buggy isn’t across the hall like his brother was (and still is). He isn’t in a place where I can hear him if he’s having a bad night. Sure, I could hear him if he is hysterical, but I tend to not like letting my babies get that way, especially in the middle of the night.
So I have the monitor next to my bed, just in case. Wait…
The monitor….the friggin MONITOR! That’s it!! That’s the damn sleep stealing culprit! I’ve finally caught it red handed!
Monitors are wonderful things! Especially the ones they make now with video cameras…how friggin cool are those little babies?
But, they do have a downside. Whenever he adjusts himself, groans, takes a deep breath…I hear it. It wakes me up, makes me push the button to “see” if he will be able to get himself back to sleep or not or if he will need his mommy. We are almost at 100% with the getting himself back to sleep (unless he’s sick).
But yet it’s become a habit, to have that monitor right next to my head “just in case.” Why? Mostly because I want to make sure I hear him if he needs me. That I can get to him quickly if there is really a problem. That he knows his mommy is there.
So is the monitor more for me? Or for him?
Heck I don’t know…I just figured out that it was THAT little piece of amazing technology that has been stealing my sleep for the last several, several months. It will probably take another 15 months to figure out why I still feel the need to have it on. And by that time I will be so sleep deprived it simply won’t matter! OH, and if Buggy is anything like his brothers he will be able to scream “MOMMY” loud enough that I won’t need it anyway.
Does something or someone steal your sleep? Who or what is the culprit in your house?